Carolien Moors is a speaker, executive team coach and workshop facilitator from the Netherlands with degrees in psychology and education that she puts to amazing use, coupled with her natural keen observation and listening skills. Carolien inspires, engage, and empower her audiences with her practical and direct approach and with her humor and energy. She acts and holds accountable, says it as it is, and uncovers what’s blocking people from performing at their best. Find out more at https://www.linkedin.com/in/carolienmoorshardtalkcoach. In this post, Caro provide some simple tips for becoming more fully present in the moment and increasing our productivity and connection...enjoy, and thank you Carolien!
Easy, Quick Exercises to Increase Awareness & Focus
Buddhist monks, practicing meditators and the like excluded, we all have difficulty being aware in the present moment. Many of us suck at focusing on what’s going on here and now. We have a hard time fully staying with the conversation. If you wish to change this, practice these six easy and quick exercises. It will improve your awareness, strengthen your focus, and help keep your attention fixed in the present moment.
- One minute check-in
Sit or stand somewhere comfortably and focus your attention completely on the physical sensation of your body, whether it is the feeling of your buttocks on a soft surface or your feet standing on the floor. Focus on nothing else than your buttocks or feet. Focus your attention on their warmth, the pressure exerted, or the tension in your muscles. Notice how this body part feels. Don’t judge it or try to explain it, just notice.
- 45 Seconds conscious observation
Choose an object in your proximity (cup, pen, paper, folder, bag – not your phone J). Set a timer for 45 seconds (here your phone is useful) and hold the object in your hands, turn it around as you please. Take in the object with all your senses for 45 seconds. Fully absorb the object. Look at colors, shape, and size and feel the material. Make sure not to study your object intellectually – just observe it for what it is to feel a heightened being in the ‘now’.
- Count down
Close your eyes and focus your attention on slowly counting down from ten. If your concentration wanders of, you start back at number 10. Most people have to start again multiple times and that’s okay. It may go like this: “Ten … nine …” When is the deadline for that proposal? Whoops, I’m thinking, not counting. “Ten … nine … eight … seven … six … “ Who is Tim talking to on the phone, he seems upset? Oh dear, I’m not focused on my counting. Lets start again! …
- One sense only
When you are brushing your teeth in the morning or when you’re eating lunch at work, decide to focus on one sense and one sense only. For example: focus on the smell of the toothpaste and justthat smell for the duration of the brushing. Or focus on the texture of the food, just the texture and nothing else. Notice how it feels in your mouth and on your teeth.
- Focus through repetition
Choose an inspiring phrase and repeat it silently in your mind for 90 seconds minutes. Whenever you notice another word or sentence entering your mind, start again and repeat until you reach 90 seconds of uninterrupted repetition of your phrase. A few examples:
- We ought to question the things we’re inclined to take for granted.
- We do others a big favor whenever we delay our judgments.
- It takes courage to unmask the reassuring lies we love to tell ourselves.
- Unexpected guest
When someone comes to your desk or into your office unexpectedly:
- Stop what you are doing, turn your body to face the person, make eye contact, and focus completely on the person.
- Instead of labeling it as an interruption, see what happens if you smile, welcome, breathe, and listen.
- Whether you decide to meet with the person right there and then or not, make sure to leave the interaction with a genuine feeling of having made focused contact.
As you practice these six exercises daily, don’t judge or condemn diversions and distractions. Whatever grabs your attention, whether it comes from outside (people laughing, a car engine, the coffee machine) or whether it comes from within (rumbling stomach, thoughts about the 3pm meeting), I ask you to accept the distraction as a fact right here and now, and then push it aside gently for a later time to pay attention to. Non-judgmentally release any thoughts of the past or the future. Slow down, re-focus completely on your exercise, and remember: Constant practice is the key to success.