How relationships are like bicycles..or the dark side of resilience

While the analogy may seem strange, hang with me a moment please..

Think back to the last time you bought a bike..or a car.. or something you spent a lot of time, money and angst over purchasing…

I recently bought a new road bike, and I of course did research diligently, test riding, reviewing specs, component comparisons, consumer reviews, prices, blah blah blah.

After many more hours than I care to count agonizing over details and features which are already forgotten, I finally made a decision, ordered the bike, and it came…

Of course at first I carefully checked the tire pressure, adjusted the speedometer, made sure it wasn’t going to rain which I was riding my shiny new bike, etc., you get the idea. When done, I carefully wiped off my baby, gently placed the bike in the car so it was perfectly aligned to prevent any damage.

Fast forward.. checking the tires weekly at best..well hey that’s not that much dirt on the chain, let's leave it for now..well it’s Ok to ride on crushed it into the car with a little pushing and shoving..

So..soon I’ll be back to the way I was treating my old bike that caused it to break, unless I transform my mindset. Really it's about the dark side of human resilience & adaptation...not something that gets surfaced often. As I love to talk about, there are so many positives to developing our resilience-our ability to manage our mindset, to bounce back form adversity, manage our stress and create so much additional capacity in our busy lives. But there's also a cost to that evolutionary habit we humans have of adapting to change and new things becoming old hat..we easily quit valuing and appreciating new things, whether it's a bike or an important relationship (personal or professional) in we begin taking it for granted, and not taking proper care of it anymore.

So my suggestion is simple, but potentially transformational..make it a daily habit to reflect on the people and things that contribute to your wonderful life today, and thank or acknowledge one person each day-whether in person or virtually; personally or professionally. Just one day at a time; one person at a time.

Not only does research support a daily gratitude practice as enhancing your health, well-being and success, but that simple acknowledgment lifts someone else up, while reinforcing your social network-another evolutionary need we humans have as primates. Hey, thanks for hanging in there with me, I appreciate you :-).

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